I came across this YouTube video titled “Women Get Back In The Kitchen”. I at first thought that this would be a video about some man crying and whining about women not cooking but to my surprise it was a woman. Her advice in summation was that the time the younger generation spends in the club with their little skirts on thinking that this going to get them a man is time spent incorrectly.

I agree with this chick to an extent. I am one of those chicks who has no problem with cooking for my man and making sure that his belly is full etc. However, what about the nothing ass men out there who do not deserve a woman cooking for them? I respect her message but what I do not want women to ever do is to give 100 percent of their time, effort, love, body, and even cooking skills to a man that is undeserving and unwilling to play his role.

What is his role? Well, since we are going back to the basics how about bringing home a check, making sure the rent is paid. Dammit how about taking out the garbage? Something as simple as that is unheard of to some men. Do I cook for me and my man after we both leave a long hard day of work? Sure, why the hell not? I am a nurturer and honestly I enjoy doing it, so I do not feel like it is a burden. But no woman should ever feel obligated to be on top of her s**t and keep any man happy

Also, I would never suggest that you play Betty Crocker for just anyone. This type of special attention should only be reserved for someone you are either in a serious relationship with or marriage. So ladies, don’t get it twisted. Cook for your man, if that is what he desires, you are comfortable with doing and it keeps him happy. But never let the table of reciprocity tilt over so far on his end where you are being dragged through the mud.